A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do

Book - 2009
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An honest and groundbreaking guide to understanding the complicated emotions that develop between stepmothers and children.

When faced with often overwhelming challenges, what woman with stepchildren is unfamiliar with that "stepmonster" feeling? Half of all women in the United States will live with or marry a man with children. To guide women new to this role--and empower those who are struggling with it--Wednesday Martin draws upon her own experience as a stepmother. She's frank about the harrowing process of becoming a stepmother, she considers the myths and realities of being married to aman with children, and she counteracts the cultural notion that stepmothers are solely responsible for the problems that often develop. Along the way, she interviews other stepmothers and stepchildren and offers up fascinating insights from literature, anthropology, psychology, and evolutionary biology that explain the little-understood realities of this unique parent-child relationship and--in an unexpected twist--shows why the myth of the Wicked Stepmother is the single best tool for understanding who real stepmothers are and how they feel.

Publisher: Boston : Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, c2009
ISBN: 9780618758197
Branch Call Number: 306.8747 Mar 3558ad 1
Characteristics: 326 p


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Sep 06, 2016

A must read for any stepmother!! Her explanations are comforting (so you feel "It's not just me then") and also revelatory. Plenty of real life situations and insights into how we all interpret them differently. Even my husband found this useful and interesting.

Feb 12, 2014

Yes, this book wrote about a lot that I am feeling, and living with. In some parts it made me feel better that the people put down in words exactly what I was feeling. I do feel like the evil stepmom - almost always. Focusing on my own kids is what is best. Being direct and not pussy footing around the step child - teenager is what is best for me and her really. This book is a good read - when it got to the bugs I was a little bored but the rest was excellent.

Mar 28, 2012

I must admit that some of the info in this book scared me, especially at the beginning, but the book is in fact reassuring to all stepmothers and future stepmothers. We're not expected to be superheroes. A very encouraging and informative read all-in-all.

Sep 25, 2009

A must read for anyone in a blended family, with toddlers or adult children alike. It is written by someone with life experience and you will feel better after having read it.

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Nov 04, 2010

“In a number of instances, I was taken by surprise by how "stuck" many of the otherwise emotionally mature and high-functioning adults I interviewed seemed and the vehemence with which they sometimes expressed their disapproval of their fathers' unions with, as one woman in her thirties put it, "Dad's wife, or what ever she is." The lack of ease in relationships with stepchildren in their thirties and forties...can come as a particular and exasperating disappointment. Perhaps this is why many women with adult stepchildren told me of feeling "used up."


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